I was the perfect eldest daughter. A hyper-achiever. An inquisitive problem solver. A perfectionist. The geekiest kid in the room with her hand in the air and the right answer on her tongue. I graduated from Stanford University in four years with a bachelor’s and a master’s degree. With Honors. With a 3.7 GPA. Then, I earned a PhD in Neuroscience investigating how the brain learns and stays motivated. But achievement wasn’t enough. So I became a leader. As an award-winning teacher, I lit the fires of curiosity in my students. As a ropes course leader, I helped people find the courage to fly. I designed curriculum at the Lawrence Hall of Science, developed exhibitions at the Exploratorium, published articles, and authored books. I was a founding member of a new department at Cal State University, Chico. I was awarded over $2.25 million in grants. I presided over departments, committees, and nonprofits. I won accolades in leadership as a school superintendent by nurturing a powerfully collaborative team, ballooning our enrollment, and tripling our reserves. But leadership wasn’t enough.I discovered that my value isn’t determined by others, but by me. I reconnected with my identity as an adventurer, science geek, mom, wife, and friend. I embraced my imperfect Asian female body with crooked teeth and squishy mom belly. I learned mindfulness and mind-body medicine to heal my spirit. I created work-life synergy. Most importantly, I reconnected with my calling, that thread of purpose and meaning that winds through one's entire life.I discovered that I am enough, just as I am -- the light and the dark.