An example of a question I do not have an answer for, is: "Why does my brain function the way it does?". It is common for me to answer professional or personal questions from people with either a quote from some author, song or a story. Either real or made up. For some reason all my emotions and experiences of personal growth are deeply connected to words. Whether it is lyrics, poems, quotes from books or films and a dozen or three of sentences people said to me which lighted a fire inside me and changed me on the spot.My aunt described me once like this: "If everyone wanted to go right, but Melvin wanted to go left. Not because he thought they were wrong or because he was stubborn. Just because that is what felt right to him. Then he went."I do think I have a firm grasp on the question as to "how?". Being auto-didactic by nature or nurture has been the drive behind everything in my life. I decided when I was about 15 that I did not want to end up like my father, an alcoholic who could not talk about his feelings or express them very well. Since then I have been working to know myself, as Socrates told us to do in Plato's writings.I learned to recognise, acknowledge, accept and express my emotions over the years. Since everything is connected, consequently I had to evaluate my behaviour in relationship to myself and others. Learning that letting go is part of loving was a tough one. Allowing myself to experience anger and express it in a healthy way instead of crying out of fear for people not loving me, because I got angry with them, was a great lesson as well. Changing my listening and communication behavioral patterns was very hard to do. I recognize many criteria for ADD in the way I interact with the world, which has led to some very difficult conflicts. It turns out that when I receive feedback or criticism that people experience my non-verbal communication as dismissive, disinterested, because I stare in the distance and my facial expression looks irritated. What is actually happening is that, especially when the feedback is understood and accepted right away, my brain is already running circles and resolving the issue, planning new strategies for the future. Since that is all an internal process, I need to remember to explain this so people can understand me.As a result of my philosophy of life, I have cultivated an attitude of improvement while accepting and embracing flaws. Striving to support everyone in my expanding circle to thrive. And above all to be an authentic human being. Trying to find my way to be in the service of others.